Haptonomy is the science of touching and feeling, defining how we deal with ourselves, the others, and the world that surrounds us. Haptonomy was founded by Dutch researcher F. Veldman, these days residing and working in France, where resides the only school for the different Haptonomy therapies: Haptopsychotherapy, Pre-and Postnatal accompaniment, Haptosynesis.Haptonomy is all about awaking the baby to the world that surrounds it and helping it to assume itself with confidence and trust. It can and should be started from conception and up to the seventh month after birth; after that date it is considered to be too late to start an haptonomy accompaniment.
While in utero, the fetus is able to feel throught out its own skin and the tension and softness of the mother’s womb the world surrounding both of them. Even before he grows ears, it can feel the father’s voice though tissue vibration: if the father comes in the room where the mother is and all is well between them, the inner tissue in the womb (from the uterus to the perineal diaphragm) will relax and become softer and warmer. The baby will instantly become aware of this and thus of the father’s presence.
If the father talks to the baby and places himself near the mum’s belly, the fetus will move forward to him. With this knowledge, Haptonomy will help the parents communicate and build a strong, intimate and trustful relationship between the them and the baby-to-be, up to the point to invite the fetus to become pro-active and play by teaching it up to 3 different bouncing “games”. And it is very important that the father plays along, has Haptonomy is based on this trinity.
Haptonomy allows the fetus to grow strong and confident and actually easies labor work, but it does create a trauma to the baby: he comes to feel cold, hungry, tired and sour – several times a day. Postnatal haptonomy will help the parents and the baby build – or re build- a relationship between the three of them and the world based on trust and confidence.
This is achieved thanks to the same tools as in prenatal care: touching. Parents will learn how to stimulate the baby and how to let him hold his own head (actually the total opposite parents are usually told). You get then to see these babies holding their own head themselves and absolutely aware of everything around them, their open hands showing how relaxed and confident they feel, smiling and calm when not laughing.
These babies will grow up with a strong and solid character that will need to be calibrated, as self confident and taking all responsibilities, balanced individuals.
Haptonomy is the science of affection and communication though touching, allowing awareness and conscious of self being and the world surrounding, and how the baby interacts with it, with confidence, affection and trust. The communication that is built up between the parents and the baby from the very first time they approach it, since conception, is priceless intimacy.
